Winning back your ex is a resource for anyone desperately trying to get back with their ex. This blog was started to provide people who are trying to get back together with their ex girlfriends or ex boyfriends real and valuable advice. The advice can be edgy and abrasive. If you are looking for someone to lie to you...Go elsewhere.

8/20/09

Magic of Making Up - The Low Down Real Deal

Hey Fool,

You must LOVE being lied to!!

As you can see I put a lot of time and effort into promoting T.W. Jackson's Magic of Making Up. As you can also see I pride myself on being straight forward and honest with anyone who happens to stumble upon this page. In that spirit I am going to share a little secret with you:

Anytime anyone buys Magic of Making Up someone gets a percentage of the sale. Because of this people market the crap out of the product (which I clearly suck at) and tell all types of lies, misleading stories and even total fabrications of situations. They make mushy "pink" web sites that are just filled with crap.

You can already tell that this site is not like that. Haha. I am one of the few people that got the book, (expecting to be asking for a refund) used it and THEN decided to spread the word about it. (I had bought other books that were all "fluff" and junk and figured this was just another one jumping on the bandwagon)

I was so tired of all the "There is hope" and "You can do it!" sites that I wanted to just be real and up front with mine. That is why some of the time I can be a little mean. I can break it down into one sentence:

The Magic of Making Up helped me a lot and there is a good possibility that if you need relationship advice it can help you too.

There ya go! No bonuses or false promises, I can't make you rich over night or make you acne disappear in an hour. (<-- poking fun at some other "awesome" sites you may find out there)

Check out this video from the author, T.W. Jackson, which has E mails from other people who have used Magic of Making Up. (geezzzz you won't just take my word for it? haha)



Here is T.W. Jackson's page where you can get all the information on Magic of Making Up and then make your own informed decision as to if this book will help you our not.

Don't let the other guys LIE to you anymore!

8/17/09

Win Back Your Ex - Boyfriend or Girlfriend

Win Back Your Ex - Boyfriend or Girlfriend. Basically, get off your butt and stop wasting time!



This video is about 5 mins long. I made it out of frustration. I understand how you are feeling now after a break up or desperate to know how to win back your ex. I have been there and this helped me so much that I made this page just to promote it. That is why it frustrates me that so many people come here looking for help or searching for answers but they get all "whaaaaaa" when I show them a site that sells an awesome book.

If this video does not get the point across I may consider another one where I am just yelling, flipping out or just laughing.

I just know that when I was in my break up I would have given my left....well... a lot for what I learned here. After it all worked out I felt like I robbed T.W. Jackson by only paying $39.

The Magic of Making Up offers understanding and reasons AND a plan based on human nature not some half cocked B.S.

I am not even going to put a link in this post, it is over there on the right. If you can't find it well then there may actually be no hope for you.

If you do find it...CLICK IT!!!!!!...and get the most logical and imformative way to win back your ex.

8/4/09

How to Get an Ex Boyfriend Back-These 3 Steps Will Get Him Back in Your Arms

Editorial Note: This author provides some valuable tips on How to get an ex boyfriend back. If you are seriously considering ways to get your ex boyfriend back a must check out resource is T.W. Jackson's Magic of Making Up. Just click the image of the book to the right.


By Jane Mccarthy

Have you been attempting to determine how to win an ex boyfriend back, but you're not sure how to go about it? I feel ya! Things are rough for you now. You've got all these differing thoughts and feelings going through your mind. Your desire is to learn how to get an ex boyfriend back, but you lack any kind of strategy.

This is a very bad place to be. If you just go with your feelings and try to go about this without thinking things through, it could make things far worse. Before you do any more damage to your chances to win him back, take a step back, think things through and get a plan. Here is a 3 step plan on how to get an ex boyfriend back that has been used successfully by many women:

1. Don't come off as desperate or needy

I know the temptation. You want to call him up and tell him how badly you feel about the breakup. You want to cry on the phone and make him feel sorry for you. This may work with your parents, but it WONT work with most guys. The first step in how to get an ex boyfriend back is to put an end to this kind of behavior. Now is not the time to seek his sympathy, now is the time to be strong!

2. Stop calling him for a while.

Step two to how to get an ex boyfriend back is to stop calling or seeing him for a while. This goes hand in hand with step one. If you are apart from him, you will not show neediness or desperation. In fact, the opposite will occur. He will start to miss you and wonder about you. I know this is a hard step, but it important that you follow through because it is a key part of your plan.

3. Focus your mind on other things

Ok, so you're thinking "if I can't contact him, what do I do with my time?" That's a great question. Again the answer is simple, but not necessarily easy. The third step to how to get an ex boyfriend back is to use your "no contact' period (about a month or so) to focus on things OTHER than him. He doesn't have to be the center of your universe. So, reconnect with some old friends, spend more time at work, get into a hobby you always wanted to do.

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7/29/09

How To Get Back My Ex Boyfriend


Do you think you really know "How to get back my ex boyfriend?" I bet you have some crazy plan in your head. I am pretty sure it is all you think about all day. You just want to get back your ex boyfriend. Luckily, for you this post will get your started in the right track. I can be a bit mean or harsh at times but rest assured it is only because I KNOW the advice I give works and it is frustrating when people don't bother to take it.

Chances are you did a search for something related to getting back your boyfriend. You have probably found tons and tons of articles and sites giving all types of advice and miracle solutions. This is not one of them. My advice comes from personal experience which we know, is the best teacher.

The first thing you need to keep in mind about your ex boyfriend is that for one reason or another you two are not together right now. You may have messed up or he may have messed up, either way it does not matter. If your goal is to get him back you first need to accept that the relationship you guys had is over. Obviously, there was some kind of problems with it if you are in this situation. The goal now is to start a new relationship with the same person. Do you understand so far?

In order to get this on the right track you are going to need to start fresh. Are you ready to let the past be the past and just look toward the future? If you are not then you might as well give this up now and do your next Google search for puppies or something. Still with me? O.K. now we are looking toward the future.

Space is going to be the best thing EVER right now. This means for you and for him. This will give you guys a chance to get back to who you were when you first fell in love. This is a time where you should be reestablishing neglected friendships, taking a day trip you have been wanting to take and over all just enjoying you.

Of course, this also means no crazy ex girlfriend stuff. That includes showing up at places you know he will be, massive amounts of text messages, E mails, Phone calls and yes instant messages and BBMs count too. I said "crazy ex girlfriend" stuff because that is exactly how your ex boyfriend is going to see it. The only thing you will accomplish is pushing him farther away...possibly forever.

Now it is time for a serious step that frankly, only the people who are dead set on "how do I get my ex boyfriend back" actually take. It's called getting help! I have reccomended T.W. Jackson's Magic of Making Up book all over the place. Why am I trying to get you to spend 39 bucks on a book?

#1 He explains why things happen and the thoughts and feelings behind them. He does not just say "do this"

#2 He offers plans, stratigies and soultions for almost every situation. Remember how I said you need to start a new relationship with the same person? He has a "clean slate" method that outlines exactly how to do it.

#3 If you think it really sucks you got 60 days to get your money back. Lets face it, comapred to the heartache and pain you have now....$39 bucks is not that much.

Anyway, I can only offer you the door, I can't push your ass through it. Hopefully, you can gather enough information and actually get back your ex boyfriend.

No More Fighting - Relationship Advice That Can Save Your Relationship



By Lynn Huber

We all have a point of view that will collide in one way or the other. Our likes and enjoyments as well as our dislikes may not always be the same nor are our moods. A simple miscommunication can lead to misunderstanding. When extended and stressed, a misunderstanding can lead to with matches of rage, rounds of intense arguments and worse, uncalled fist - fights and other dispositions of violence and abuse.

It is a fact that we are all unique and different individuals. We are designed to be diverse and distinct. Yet it is in our natural diversity that our spontaneity to love emanates and it is in this uniqueness that we fight and disagree.

As emotional beings, we long for tenderness and love. Although a relationship does not at all assure a "bed-of-roses", we still take the risk to love because of what and who we are. Fighting in a relationship is natural. It makes us human and fallible. In fact, a relationship without fighting is something special and possibly, all too unreal.

When you start to disagree and learn to speak your mind, quite unknowingly you are opening up to your partner. Evidently, transparency is also important in building a strong basis for the relationship to flourish. If your transparency heats up an argument or perhaps your candidness picks up a fight, do not lose heart. It is the start of something more deep and lasting.

"Do Not Let the Sun Go down When You Are Still Upset"

It is a mutual task to learn how to fix a fighting relationship. For your relationship to grow, try to always settle the misunderstanding or stop the fight. Do not sustain the agony. As a proverb says, "Do not let the sun set while you are still angry." Make it a point to talk with your partner the events and concerns involved. At the end of the day, do your best to sleep peacefully without carrying a heavy burden.

"Always Seek a Moral Example from the Fight"

It is valuable to fight when you learn a good lesson out of every misunderstanding. If either one of you stays shut down and unmoved, the fight was just a useless emotional crap.

Learn to Assume the Mistake and Move Forward

Humility and acceptance is important while learning how to fix a fighting relationship. The person who is at fault should bear the mistake that caused the fight or no one else will. Learning to accept, after all, makes you a better and more adorable person.

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7/24/09

He Said He Wants Space – Can I Get My Boyfriend Back?

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It happens all the time. One second you think everything is all well and good then BAM he said he wants more space. You are blindsided and you are wondering “Can I get my boyfriend back?” Well there may be many reasons for him requesting space and until you try to understand them you will not be able to get him back.

He Said He Wants Space #1

You need to keep yourself in mind. This will help you to understand what is going on with your boyfriend. You want to get him thinking that you were a major loss to his life. You can do this by not being so available to him and playing a little hard to get.

He Said He Wants Space #2

It is a good idea to let him initiate communication. That means if he texts you then you should respond but not be overbearing. Just to let him know that you are honoring his request for space but you are still interested in him. You want to keep any communication as un-dramatic as possible. If he calls keep the conversation light and brief.

He Said He Wants Space #3

He should begin to realize that his request for space may eventually make him lose you forever. He should start calling you more and asking to hang out. Keep being fairly selective as you want him to be sure of his feelings before jumping right into things again.

If you boyfriend said that he wants space there are many different tactics and strategies you can use to be sure that you will get him back. It is very important to get as much information as possible as this is a very touchy situation and you could wind up pushing him away forever.

By FAR the best thing to do would be review T.W. Jackson's book Magic of Making Up so you can get all the tactics and planning you need to get him back the right way. If you want to know about winning back your ex then he is the guy to "show you the light!"

7/10/09

My Boyfriend Just Dumped Me! – How Can I Get My Boyfriend Back?


It happens all the time to everyone. Girls everywhere are saying “my boyfriend just dumped me”. The point is you are not alone. The good news is that if you are wondering how can I get my boyfriend back then there are ways, very powerful ways to make this happen. You should also know that 90% of relationships can be fixed and saved. The odds are in your favor providing you know exactly what to do and what not to do.

Here are some quick ideas on what not to do.

My Boyfriend Just Dumped Me No-No #1

Do not become a crazy stalker. This may seem a little mean at first but hear me out. If you start to text him non-stop, E Mail and IM him he will never miss you. Actually, he will start to think of you as annoying. This will not help you when trying to get your boyfriend back. It is ok to let him know that you still have feelings but don’t overdo it.

My Boyfriend Just Dumped Me No-No #2

Do not become “That Girl”. What I mean by that girl is the girl that is always going out and going home with different guys every weekend. Again, this might sound mean but people do things out of character when they are desperate. It is ok for him to see you talking to other guys here and there. It will give him the impression that he might really be losing you and he has to act now. If he finds out you have been getting around that will just seal the break up for him.

If you are serious about getting him back (by serious I mean you are seeking constructive and effective help) then you need to get a good plan. There are many resources out there and some of them are just downright horrible. Don’t take the chance at losing the man you love forever.

If you ARE serious and want to know how can I get my ex boyfriend back check out what 6,100 other people have already have... T.W. Jackson's Magic of Making Up. This powerful book will have him running back to YOU in no time!

7/7/09

How to Get Back an Ex - What You Don't Want To Hear


So you and your ex broke up. This is already clear since you are reading this article. It is also clear that you are searching for how to get back an ex. Now that we have gotten the obvious facts out of the way let me give you some advice. A quick word of warning; I take a very straight forward, no holds barred approach at dispensing advice. You have been warned.


Something, somewhere went wrong

When we break it down to the bare facts it looks like this. You were dating someone and now you are not. Hence, they are now your ex. I am not going to bother with the "he did this" and "she did that" part of it all. That stuff is in the past and as long as you live in the past you will have no chance at any type of future. If you are serious about getting your ex back the very first thing you need to do is start looking forward. Stop getting hung up on the situations of how you got here in order to get where you want to.

Are you with me? We are looking forward now. Yes. . . that way.

What is it that you actually want? Are you certain that you want to know how to get an ex back, more specifically, how to get your ex back? Now that we are looking forward you need to focus on you. If you are constantly calling and texting your ex cut that junk out right now. You are just being needy and annoying and pushing them further away. It is all about self control that is your best friend right now. Once you establish some self control and self confidence you are already on the right track to getting your ex back. Ask yourself this; would you want to get back together with someone who is constantly whining and being annoying? I did not think so. The big picture is getting a bit clearer now.

If you have been listening to this article then you are already ten times better off then you were 350 words ago. The question "how to get back an ex" is asked by tons of people every day but the vast majority of them cannot get to the point that you are now. Good Job, but there is more.



6,100 people have already used T.W. Jackson's Magic of Making Up. Could they ALL be wrong? Step it up and go read his stuff!

Make your own future,

Mikey A.

7/6/09

Winning Back Your Ex - 3 Hot Tips For Winning Back Your Ex

When a break up happens there are a lot of questions that arise. If one of your questions is "How does one go about winning back your ex" then you need to get the right things to do. Most of the time people are fed purely by emotion and manage to do all the wrong things. By operating on pure emotion you will just push your ex further away and lose all hope of winning them back. This article includes 5 hot tips for winning back your ex that this author learned from a leader in relationship advice, Mr. T.W. Jackson.

Tip #1 - Cut Down communication.
This may seem like the wrong thing to do at this point. Emotionally, all you want to do is talk to your ex and fix things right now. This is not a good idea because everything is still fresh and both of you have not had much time to think and sort things out. This is the time to take a little break. Do not be rude but do not return calls right away and avoid sending text messages all the time. Texting is still communicating! This will also show your ex what life is like without you in it, which will help your cause

Tip #2 - Show You Strength
You know you have it! It's right there, that strong confident person. This is not the time to begin begging your ex. This is not the time to start showing up where you know they will be. The idea is to show them that you are just fine without them. This will also give your ex the idea that they are missing you and you are not. It might be time for them to act and try to make an effort to get you back!

Tip #3 - Don't Stay Home!
I know, right now you are pretty hurt and an emotional mess. This is the exact reason that you should be hanging out with friends and doing new things. Don't mistake the advice here, this does not mean go on as much dates as possible. This means spending time with friends to clear your mind and have a little fun. By showing you are able to function your ex may realize exactly what they lost.

It is very important to remember to be who you really are. You had a life before you met your ex and there is no reason why there is not a life after. Keep in mind that your ex fell in love with the person you were when they met you so getting back to the person is a very important step when winning back your ex.

My original article published at Winning Back Your Ex - 3 Hot Tips For Winning Back Your Ex

Mikey A.

7/2/09

I Want My Ex Girlfriend Back – How Do I Get My Ex Girlfriend Back


I Want My Ex Girlfriend Back – How Do I Get My Ex Girlfriend Back

If a relationship ends suddenly there may still be feeling for one another on each side. If you are saying “I want my ex girlfriend back” or even wondering “How do I get my ex girlfriend back” then this article is for you. If you are serious about getting her back and you still think that she has feelings then one of the most important things to remember is you must have a plan. Without a plan you are going to be led by emotions and ultimately, push her further away. Hear me out please.

Here are a few tips to get you started.

#1 Desperate is no good!


If you become some needy, clingy, harassing stalker there is probably no way you will ever get her back. During this time you need to get your emotions in check and keep focused on your main goal, which is to get her back and keep her. Remember needy = bad confident = good.

#2 90% of relationships can be fixed. Is that you?

You need to start considering if it’s really love between you two. If you are searching for “I want my ex girlfriend back” or “How do I get my ex girlfriend back” then its pretty clear that you do. Now that we have established that you are one step closer to being a part of that 90%

#3 Get Positive, Stay Positive!


I know this can be a very down and trying time. You need to realize that if you ex girlfriend only sees you down in the dumps and feeling bad for yourself, it give her no incentive to want you back. Does anyone really want to be with a Debbie Downer? I am being real and honest here.

#4 Get a plan or get going


This may be the most important aspect here. Once you get your head in the right place it is time to start getting a plan to get her back. It is crucial to realize that if you do not get some advice or guidance then you can very well be dooming any chances you have at getting her back. If you are still saying “I want my ex girlfriend back” or still searching for “How do I get my ex girlfriend back” then you are taking a step in the right direction.

Take The Next Step!

Get it Done,

Mikey A.

6/29/09

Getting Back Your Ex, The Mindset You Need

Have you just gone through a break up? The fact is nearly every adult experiences some kind of break up. Are you thinking about what you can do to go about getting your ex back? Most people just throw in the towel and torment themselves with the task of moving on. Do you want to live with the question “What could have been?” Getting your ex back requires some work, careful planning and a sure fire strategy.

Did you know that 90 percent of the time there is no reason why people can’t get back with their ex. The first thing you are going to need to do is determine what happened and what actually caused the break up. This is very important because even though you can’t change what already happened, you can learn from the past and use it to your advantage when getting your ex back. You have to see what

The second important thing to figure out is if this break up happened because of one single incident or is it something that had been building for a while. If you know the incident you can see what it was that went wrong and then work on fixing it. If it was an ongoing thing then you need to figure out what behaviors or things bothered your ex so much that they broke up with you. If you are very serious about getting your ex back then you need to figure these things out and then get the right advice on planning how you should proceed.

One major thing to keep in mind when working on this is to not do things that will push your ex further away. You should use this time to build your self confidence. You should not be constantly haunting your ex and come off as a weak and needy person. This will only push them away. You should almost be proving that you are just fine without them. Your confidence and strength with actually improve your chances of getting your ex back.

One other pitfall people usually encounter if their need to make their ex jealous or trying to get them back. This is a very bad idea as it does not promote any positive feelings in either one of you. If you act this way it will send the message to your ex that you have totally moved on and that you have no more interest and they should do the same thing. If you are serious about getting your ex back then you need to follow these pointers but also learn as much as you can so you can develop a solid strategy that will be able to get your ex back for you.

In Your Corner,

Mikey A.

6/25/09

Does My Ex Want Me Back – Common Signs Your Ex Wants You Back


>When going through or having just gone through a break up you will probably be constantly wondering “Does my ex want me back”? You will start over analyzing every little thing, every conversation or text message. You might recognize flirting a little more than you did before. Its ok to look into these signs a little further but do not draw any major conclusions just yet.


Some of the common signs that your ex wants you back do include more phone calls than usual, an increase in texting and even e mails. If you two still see each other socially you might notice flirting or intentional subtle touching. These all may be signs that your ex wants you back but you need to keep in mind that if you just go back full blown at this point it might just push them back to where you started at the beginning of the break up. Your best bet in situations like this is to chill out and play it cool. Don’t be totally cold but don’t totally give in either.


It is going to be a normal reaction for the two of you to miss each other and to think about each other a lot. Depending on the duration of your relationship and how close you were it will be a very difficult time. Often when someone is hurting like from the break up they look for comfort in what they know and more often than not that is the very person they just broke up with. Sounds very strange but it’s human nature and you can’t fight that. It is also possible that at this point the both of you are remembering the good times and the good memories. This alone may be drawing you to each other.


Sometimes when an ex shows interest again following a break up however, it is only a game. They may see that you love them, and they may simply be trying to get attention, without actually intending to get you back. So, unless your ex really seems genuinely interested in spending time with you, they may just be passing the time because they have no other prospects on the horizon. And worst of all they may see this as away to get revenge for some perceived wrong. This is why it is important not to jump the gun, and why you should focus on reading into the situation before you act on it.


This is common, and a lot of people find themselves wondering "does my ex want to get back with me?", but the truth is, its better to get a feel for the situation before you act. In reality, if your ex does want to get back with you, playing hard to get (in moderation) is the best scenario because it will prevent you from getting hurt if your ex is not really serious about getting back with you.


Remember to always be very cautious in this situation. This show of affection or renewed interest could just be your ex messing with you. It’s horrible to think like that but it’s the honest truth. It is at this stage that you need to seriously consider developing a plan. Getting advice from a known professional and making a sound strategy can mean the difference between getting your ex back or not. If you are still asking yourself “Does my ex want me back” then you need to get as much information as you can and approach the situation informed.


T.W. Jackson's Magic of Making Up will explain EVERYTHING you need to know to make the most out of any situation AND to keep yourself from getting more hurt!! I could not be a bigger fan of this damn book!


Always Do What You Gotta Do,

Mikey A.

6/24/09

How To Get My Ex Girlfriend Back


Quite often right after breaking up many guys are desperately wondering "How can I get my ex girl back". Usually then they start over thinking and over analyzing everything in their heads, playing it out differently. Then the great big master plan phase starts where they develop some huge elaborate plan to get their ex girl back.


Nine times out of ten this course of action is destined for failure before it even begins for one HUGE reason: You never really know what actually led to the break up. Sometimes women don’t even know what led up to the break up. More often than not it is just a big waste of time sitting around and mulling over what actually went wrong.


What Really To Do?


The first thing to get on the right path when answering "How can I do to get my ex girlfriend back" is to give yourself a rest with the over analyzing of what went wrong and even the relationship in general. The best thing to do during this time is to go out with friends, do some things you have been meaning to do but have not had the time and just stay busy.

Take this time to reevaluate yourself and your priorities. Most of all do not communicate with your ex girlfriend.


This strategy works wonders because it allows you time to get your life in order. There are many changes one makes when dating someone so this is a time where you can get back to yourself. This will also give you a better perspective of what you are looking for in a woman and what you want out of life.


Now comes a crucial point in this process. Do you still want to get your ex girlfriend back? Are you ready to proceed on with life without her? If you decide that you do in fact want your ex girl back then it is a good time to see what page she is on.


If you decide that you do want her back then you are already in a better position then you were right after the break up. You do need to keep in mind that you now can plan it out and use a strategy that will be much more effective than just jumping in with raw emotions.


This is the time to slowly reintroduce yourself into her life. Be cool about it. Give her the option of calling you back or responding to your texts. If she is missing you and is interested in getting back together then you will get that feeling. Make sure she is aware that you are doing just fine on your own. The most important thing to remember is to develop a good sound plan. If you go about this process with no strategy or understand then you will fail again. I want you to be successful but most of all I want you to figure out what you need to do to be happy. If you decide that you want to “Get my ex girlfriend back” then go for it…the right way.


T.W. Jackson's book "The Magic Of Making Up" teaches what she is feeling, thinking and how to use it to your advantage! This book is only for serious guys who really want to get their ex girl back!

In Your Corner,
Mikey A.

How Can I Get My Ex Boyfriend Back

Does it feel like every move you make or plan in your head just fails over and over again? Are you wondering "How can I get my ex boyfriend back" at every second of the day? Here are a few things that will really help your odds of getting your ex boyfriend back.

If you are sitting here reading this you must be pretty serious about getting him back. Have you ever stopped to consider that they way you are feeling may be causing you to act in ways that might be pushing your ex boyfriend away even further? It is natural to act differently when you are under the pressure and stress that you are feeling but if you want to get him back you need to become conscious of this.

Let me guess, you are trying to play the sympathetic card with him, you are probably calling him…a lot and I am not even going to mention the amount of texts you have probably sent already. If you really want to know "How can I get my ex boyfriend back", then you need to cease the phone calls, texts, E mails, Ims everything right now.

So Smart Guy. . . What Do I do to get him back then?

The first thing you need to do is take a step back and revaluate your situation. Then you need to put the relationship issues on the back burner for a while. Cut off all communication with him. Take some time to think about yourself and what you really want. This is going to be a really tough time, and you are going to need to be disciplined.

At this point your ex boyfriend will start wondering what is going on. He will have gotten so used to you always calling and texting that now you’re not he will get curious. This is an advantage for you! Now he is starting to miss you because you are not trying to contact him every second.

The whole crucial part to repairing a break up and getting back together is to understand the nature of people and work with that, not against it. This should give you a basic idea of just some of the strategies out there to effectively get an ex back.

T.W. Jackson GUARANTEES he can show you how to get your ex boyfriend back!

In Your Corner!
Mikey A.

Tips to make your ex return your calls – Winning your ex back

It may not seem to logical but there are certain words and techniques you can use to be sure that your ex will return your phone calls. I know you are probably banging your head against the wall so allow me to try to help you and share some of these secrets that are truly amazing and will help you make your ex return your calls.

I can’t take totally credit for these methods as I learned them in T.W. Jackson’s awesome book “The Magic of Making Up”. This is just a minuscule glimpse into the methods, lessons and insights this guy shares but I don’t think he will mind if I let you in on this little one right now.

First What NOT to do!!

The first thing not to do is the “sudden emergency” voice mail or text message. This is when you call your ex all panicked and tell them it is an emergency and they need to call you back ASAP. This is just a total set up for anger and frustration, which is what you are trying to avoid.
The second thing not to do is the “begging” voice mail or text message. This is where you call or text and says “please please call me back, I have to talk to you right now”. This is horrible and just makes you look desperate. It also puts your ex in the position of power and they will never return your calls if they feel like that.

Use This To Get Them to Call You!

What T.W. Jackson suggests (and he is usually right…trust me) is you use the method that peaks their curiosity and makes them want to call you. Here is a example:

“Hey Mike. It’s Janice. I just want to let you know that I really appreciate what you did. Give me a call back so I can thank you.”

Mike will get that message and be consumed by wonder, wondering what exactly it was that he did and why you are in such a good mood. Furthermore, when he does call back he will not be defensive or angry.

You need a plan first!

Like I said this is just a quick tip from The Magic of Making Up. You should not use it unless you have a full plan, a strategy. It can actually be VERY disastrous if you do not have a plan first. T.W. actually outlines what to do when they call you back, what to say and how to control the situation AFTER the call.

Get the PLAN NOW!

In Your Corner,
Mikey A.