Winning Back Your Ex - 3 Hot Tips For Winning Back Your Ex

When a break up happens there are a lot of questions that arise. If one of your questions is "How does one go about winning back your ex" then you need to get the right things to do. Most of the time people are fed purely by emotion and manage to do all the wrong things. By operating on pure emotion you will just push your ex further away and lose all hope of winning them back. This article includes 5 hot tips for winning back your ex that this author learned from a leader in relationship advice, Mr. T.W. Jackson.

Tip #1 - Cut Down communication.
This may seem like the wrong thing to do at this point. Emotionally, all you want to do is talk to your ex and fix things right now. This is not a good idea because everything is still fresh and both of you have not had much time to think and sort things out. This is the time to take a little break. Do not be rude but do not return calls right away and avoid sending text messages all the time. Texting is still communicating! This will also show your ex what life is like without you in it, which will help your cause

Tip #2 - Show You Strength
You know you have it! It's right there, that strong confident person. This is not the time to begin begging your ex. This is not the time to start showing up where you know they will be. The idea is to show them that you are just fine without them. This will also give your ex the idea that they are missing you and you are not. It might be time for them to act and try to make an effort to get you back!

Tip #3 - Don't Stay Home!
I know, right now you are pretty hurt and an emotional mess. This is the exact reason that you should be hanging out with friends and doing new things. Don't mistake the advice here, this does not mean go on as much dates as possible. This means spending time with friends to clear your mind and have a little fun. By showing you are able to function your ex may realize exactly what they lost.

It is very important to remember to be who you really are. You had a life before you met your ex and there is no reason why there is not a life after. Keep in mind that your ex fell in love with the person you were when they met you so getting back to the person is a very important step when winning back your ex.

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Mikey A.

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Tips to make your ex return your calls – Winning your ex back

It may not seem to logical but there are certain words and techniques you can use to be sure that your ex will return your phone calls. I know you are probably banging your head against the wall so allow me to try to help you and share some of these secrets that are truly amazing and will help you make your ex return your calls.

I can’t take totally credit for these methods as I learned them in T.W. Jackson’s awesome book “The Magic of Making Up”. This is just a minuscule glimpse into the methods, lessons and insights this guy shares but I don’t think he will mind if I let you in on this little one right now.

First What NOT to do!!

The first thing not to do is the “sudden emergency” voice mail or text message. This is when you call your ex all panicked and tell them it is an emergency and they need to call you back ASAP. This is just a total set up for anger and frustration, which is what you are trying to avoid.
The second thing not to do is the “begging” voice mail or text message. This is where you call or text and says “please please call me back, I have to talk to you right now”. This is horrible and just makes you look desperate. It also puts your ex in the position of power and they will never return your calls if they feel like that.

Use This To Get Them to Call You!

What T.W. Jackson suggests (and he is usually right…trust me) is you use the method that peaks their curiosity and makes them want to call you. Here is a example:

“Hey Mike. It’s Janice. I just want to let you know that I really appreciate what you did. Give me a call back so I can thank you.”

Mike will get that message and be consumed by wonder, wondering what exactly it was that he did and why you are in such a good mood. Furthermore, when he does call back he will not be defensive or angry.

You need a plan first!

Like I said this is just a quick tip from The Magic of Making Up. You should not use it unless you have a full plan, a strategy. It can actually be VERY disastrous if you do not have a plan first. T.W. actually outlines what to do when they call you back, what to say and how to control the situation AFTER the call.

Get the PLAN NOW!

In Your Corner,
Mikey A.

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