Have you just gone through a break up? The fact is nearly every adult experiences some kind of break up. Are you thinking about what you can do to go about getting your ex back? Most people just throw in the towel and torment themselves with the task of moving on. Do you want to live with the question “What could have been?” Getting your ex back requires some work, careful planning and a sure fire strategy.
Did you know that 90 percent of the time there is no reason why people can’t get back with their ex. The first thing you are going to need to do is determine what happened and what actually caused the break up. This is very important because even though you can’t change what already happened, you can learn from the past and use it to your advantage when getting your ex back. You have to see what
The second important thing to figure out is if this break up happened because of one single incident or is it something that had been building for a while. If you know the incident you can see what it was that went wrong and then work on fixing it. If it was an ongoing thing then you need to figure out what behaviors or things bothered your ex so much that they broke up with you. If you are very serious about getting your ex back then you need to figure these things out and then get the right advice on planning how you should proceed.
One major thing to keep in mind when working on this is to not do things that will push your ex further away. You should use this time to build your self confidence. You should not be constantly haunting your ex and come off as a weak and needy person. This will only push them away. You should almost be proving that you are just fine without them. Your confidence and strength with actually improve your chances of getting your ex back.
One other pitfall people usually encounter if their need to make their ex jealous or trying to get them back. This is a very bad idea as it does not promote any positive feelings in either one of you. If you act this way it will send the message to your ex that you have totally moved on and that you have no more interest and they should do the same thing. If you are serious about getting your ex back then you need to follow these pointers but also learn as much as you can so you can develop a solid strategy that will be able to get your ex back for you.
In Your Corner,
Mikey A.
6/25/09
Does My Ex Want Me Back – Common Signs Your Ex Wants You Back
>When going through or having just gone through a break up you will probably be constantly wondering “Does my ex want me back”? You will start over analyzing every little thing, every conversation or text message. You might recognize flirting a little more than you did before. Its ok to look into these signs a little further but do not draw any major conclusions just yet.
Some of the common signs that your ex wants you back do include more phone calls than usual, an increase in texting and even e mails. If you two still see each other socially you might notice flirting or intentional subtle touching. These all may be signs that your ex wants you back but you need to keep in mind that if you just go back full blown at this point it might just push them back to where you started at the beginning of the break up. Your best bet in situations like this is to chill out and play it cool. Don’t be totally cold but don’t totally give in either.
It is going to be a normal reaction for the two of you to miss each other and to think about each other a lot. Depending on the duration of your relationship and how close you were it will be a very difficult time. Often when someone is hurting like from the break up they look for comfort in what they know and more often than not that is the very person they just broke up with. Sounds very strange but it’s human nature and you can’t fight that. It is also possible that at this point the both of you are remembering the good times and the good memories. This alone may be drawing you to each other.
Sometimes when an ex shows interest again following a break up however, it is only a game. They may see that you love them, and they may simply be trying to get attention, without actually intending to get you back. So, unless your ex really seems genuinely interested in spending time with you, they may just be passing the time because they have no other prospects on the horizon. And worst of all they may see this as away to get revenge for some perceived wrong. This is why it is important not to jump the gun, and why you should focus on reading into the situation before you act on it.
This is common, and a lot of people find themselves wondering "does my ex want to get back with me?", but the truth is, its better to get a feel for the situation before you act. In reality, if your ex does want to get back with you, playing hard to get (in moderation) is the best scenario because it will prevent you from getting hurt if your ex is not really serious about getting back with you.
Remember to always be very cautious in this situation. This show of affection or renewed interest could just be your ex messing with you. It’s horrible to think like that but it’s the honest truth. It is at this stage that you need to seriously consider developing a plan. Getting advice from a known professional and making a sound strategy can mean the difference between getting your ex back or not. If you are still asking yourself “Does my ex want me back” then you need to get as much information as you can and approach the situation informed.
T.W. Jackson's Magic of Making Up will explain EVERYTHING you need to know to make the most out of any situation AND to keep yourself from getting more hurt!! I could not be a bigger fan of this damn book!
Always Do What You Gotta Do,
Mikey A.
6/24/09
How To Get My Ex Girlfriend Back
Quite often right after breaking up many guys are desperately wondering "How can I get my ex girl back". Usually then they start over thinking and over analyzing everything in their heads, playing it out differently. Then the great big master plan phase starts where they develop some huge elaborate plan to get their ex girl back.
Nine times out of ten this course of action is destined for failure before it even begins for one HUGE reason: You never really know what actually led to the break up. Sometimes women don’t even know what led up to the break up. More often than not it is just a big waste of time sitting around and mulling over what actually went wrong.
What Really To Do?
The first thing to get on the right path when answering "How can I do to get my ex girlfriend back" is to give yourself a rest with the over analyzing of what went wrong and even the relationship in general. The best thing to do during this time is to go out with friends, do some things you have been meaning to do but have not had the time and just stay busy.
Take this time to reevaluate yourself and your priorities. Most of all do not communicate with your ex girlfriend.
This strategy works wonders because it allows you time to get your life in order. There are many changes one makes when dating someone so this is a time where you can get back to yourself. This will also give you a better perspective of what you are looking for in a woman and what you want out of life.
Now comes a crucial point in this process. Do you still want to get your ex girlfriend back? Are you ready to proceed on with life without her? If you decide that you do in fact want your ex girl back then it is a good time to see what page she is on.
If you decide that you do want her back then you are already in a better position then you were right after the break up. You do need to keep in mind that you now can plan it out and use a strategy that will be much more effective than just jumping in with raw emotions.
This is the time to slowly reintroduce yourself into her life. Be cool about it. Give her the option of calling you back or responding to your texts. If she is missing you and is interested in getting back together then you will get that feeling. Make sure she is aware that you are doing just fine on your own.
In Your Corner,
Mikey A.
How Can I Get My Ex Boyfriend Back
Does it feel like every move you make or plan in your head just fails over and over again? Are you wondering "How can I get my ex boyfriend back" at every second of the day? Here are a few things that will really help your odds of getting your ex boyfriend back.
If you are sitting here reading this you must be pretty serious about getting him back. Have you ever stopped to consider that they way you are feeling may be causing you to act in ways that might be pushing your ex boyfriend away even further? It is natural to act differently when you are under the pressure and stress that you are feeling but if you want to get him back you need to become conscious of this.
Let me guess, you are trying to play the sympathetic card with him, you are probably calling him…a lot and I am not even going to mention the amount of texts you have probably sent already. If you really want to know "How can I get my ex boyfriend back", then you need to cease the phone calls, texts, E mails, Ims everything right now.
So Smart Guy. . . What Do I do to get him back then?
The first thing you need to do is take a step back and revaluate your situation. Then you need to put the relationship issues on the back burner for a while. Cut off all communication with him. Take some time to think about yourself and what you really want. This is going to be a really tough time, and you are going to need to be disciplined.
At this point your ex boyfriend will start wondering what is going on. He will have gotten so used to you always calling and texting that now you’re not he will get curious. This is an advantage for you! Now he is starting to miss you because you are not trying to contact him every second.
The whole crucial part to repairing a break up and getting back together is to understand the nature of people and work with that, not against it. This should give you a basic idea of just some of the strategies out there to effectively get an ex back.
T.W. Jackson GUARANTEES he can show you how to get your ex boyfriend back!
In Your Corner!
Mikey A.
If you are sitting here reading this you must be pretty serious about getting him back. Have you ever stopped to consider that they way you are feeling may be causing you to act in ways that might be pushing your ex boyfriend away even further? It is natural to act differently when you are under the pressure and stress that you are feeling but if you want to get him back you need to become conscious of this.
Let me guess, you are trying to play the sympathetic card with him, you are probably calling him…a lot and I am not even going to mention the amount of texts you have probably sent already. If you really want to know "How can I get my ex boyfriend back", then you need to cease the phone calls, texts, E mails, Ims everything right now.
So Smart Guy. . . What Do I do to get him back then?
The first thing you need to do is take a step back and revaluate your situation. Then you need to put the relationship issues on the back burner for a while. Cut off all communication with him. Take some time to think about yourself and what you really want. This is going to be a really tough time, and you are going to need to be disciplined.
At this point your ex boyfriend will start wondering what is going on. He will have gotten so used to you always calling and texting that now you’re not he will get curious. This is an advantage for you! Now he is starting to miss you because you are not trying to contact him every second.
The whole crucial part to repairing a break up and getting back together is to understand the nature of people and work with that, not against it. This should give you a basic idea of just some of the strategies out there to effectively get an ex back.
T.W. Jackson GUARANTEES he can show you how to get your ex boyfriend back!
In Your Corner!
Mikey A.
Tips to make your ex return your calls – Winning your ex back
It may not seem to logical but there are certain words and techniques you can use to be sure that your ex will return your phone calls. I know you are probably banging your head against the wall so allow me to try to help you and share some of these secrets that are truly amazing and will help you make your ex return your calls.I can’t take totally credit for these methods as I learned them in T.W. Jackson’s awesome book “The Magic of Making Up”. This is just a minuscule glimpse into the methods, lessons and insights this guy shares but I don’t think he will mind if I let you in on this little one right now.
First What NOT to do!!
The first thing not to do is the “sudden emergency” voice mail or text message. This is when you call your ex all panicked and tell them it is an emergency and they need to call you back ASAP. This is just a total set up for anger and frustration, which is what you are trying to avoid.
The second thing not to do is the “begging” voice mail or text message. This is where you call or text and says “please please call me back, I have to talk to you right now”. This is horrible and just makes you look desperate. It also puts your ex in the position of power and they will never return your calls if they feel like that.
Use This To Get Them to Call You!
What T.W. Jackson suggests (and he is usually right…trust me) is you use the method that peaks their curiosity and makes them want to call you. Here is a example:
“Hey Mike. It’s Janice. I just want to let you know that I really appreciate what you did. Give me a call back so I can thank you.”
Mike will get that message and be consumed by wonder, wondering what exactly it was that he did and why you are in such a good mood. Furthermore, when he does call back he will not be defensive or angry.
You need a plan first!
Like I said this is just a quick tip from The Magic of Making Up. You should not use it unless you have a full plan, a strategy. It can actually be VERY disastrous if you do not have a plan first. T.W. actually outlines what to do when they call you back, what to say and how to control the situation AFTER the call.
Get the PLAN NOW!
In Your Corner,
Mikey A.
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